I was very happy and thrilled to have been asked to write for the YoungStar section of the Philippine Star again. They were putting out an issue on safe sex and had asked me to do the introduction to the issue and any other ideas that I might have. I told them I wanted to write about Grindr and my experiences on it, with the angle or the contained vision of tackling it in the realms of safe sex.
Here are my articles: Let’s Talk About Sex.
Safe sex isn’t just using protection like condoms, though that is a major part and everyone with an active sex life should practice safe sex; but it is also about choice and foresight. It’s about discernment. Will I have any regrets from this sexual act? It’s an important question to ask yourself. We have medicine and treatment for gonorrhea and syphilis and HIV but there’s none for disappointment and regret.
I am quite proud of that one.
And my other article: Back to the grind.
And an excerpt:
Grindr is a scary place, to be honest. I would have left sooner if not for some actual good conversation that I’ve found there. The fact that I’ve been able to talk to people about HIV and get them to have themselves tested is the reason why I’m still on it. Some people are just really lonely and just want to talk. There’s even a new thing there where people are looking for cuddle buddies. It’s like a f**k buddy but there’s no sex involved; it’s just the intimacy of holding someone and being held. Maybe there’s a little MOMOL involved but it’s completely safe. That’s what I’ve been told. And for every five or six sex-starved himbos on Grindr, there’s one guy that’s actually worth talking to, one guy that you actually want to ask out on a date.
I have met a lot of good people on Grindr but I have since deleted my account and removed the app from my phone. I lasted for a good five months with it but I don’t think I’ll be staying on.
I think I’ll write a book about it.
It’s good to be writing for YoungStar again.